Wednesday, April 23, 2014

15 Things you should do to be always happy in the life.

1  Give up your need to be always right.
·   Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?-Wayne Dyer
2. Give up your need for control.
·     By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.-Lao Tzu.
3.  Give up on BLAME.
4.   Give up your self-defeating self-talk.
·      The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly or wrongly. However it becomes very destructive.-Eckhart Tolle.
5.   Give up your limiting beliefs.
·      A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.
6.    Give up complaining.
7.    Give up the luxury of CRITICISM.
8.    Give up your need to impress others.
9.    Give up your resistance to change.
·       Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.
10.   Give up labels.
·        The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.-Wayne Dyer.
11.   Give up on your fears.
12.   Give up your excuses.
13.   Give up the past.
14.   Give up attachment.
15.   Give up living your life to other people’s expectations.

7 Rules of Life

1. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
2. What others think of you is none of your business.
3. Time heals almost everything,give it time.
4. Don't compare your life with others & don't judge them.You have no idea what their journey is all about.
5. Stop thinking too much,it's alright not to know the answers.They will come to you when you least expect it.
6. No one is in-charge of your happiness,except you.
7. Smile,You don't own all the problems in the world.

Saturday, April 5, 2014

Personality Traits & Personality Types: What is Personality?

Stephanie Pappas,November 18, 2013 11:38pm ET     
    
What makes you who you are as a person? You probably have some idea of your own personality type — are you bubbly or reserved, sensitive or thick-skinned? Psychologists who try to tease out the science of who we are define personality as individual differences in the way people tend to think, feel and behave.
There are many ways to measure personality, but psychologists have mostly given up on trying to divide humanity neatly into types. Instead, they focus on personality traits.
The most widely accepted of these traits are the Big Four:
  • Conscientiousness
  • Extraversion
  • Agreeableness
  • Neuroticism
Conveniently, you can remember these traits with the handy OCEAN mnemonic (or, if you prefer, CANOE works, too).
The Big Five are the ingredients that make up each individual's personality. A person might have a dash of openness, a lot of conscientiousness, an average amount of extraversion, plenty of agreeableness and almost no neuroticism at all. Or someone could be disagreeable, neurotic, introverted, conscientious and hardly open at all.  Here's what each trait entails:

Openness

Openness is shorthand for "openness to experience." People who are high in openness enjoy adventure. They're curious and appreciate art, imagination and new things. The motto of the open individual might be "Variety is the spice of life."
People low in openness are just the opposite: They prefer to stick to their habits, avoid new experiences and probably aren't the most adventurous eaters. Changing personality is usually considered a tough process, but openness is a personality trait that's been shown to be subject to change in adulthood. In a 2011 study, people who took psilocybin, or hallucinogenic "magic mushrooms," became more open after the experience. The effect lasted at least a year, suggesting that it might be permanent.
Speaking of experimental drug use, California's try-anything culture is no myth. A study of personality traits across the United States released in 2013 found that openness is most prevalent on the West Coast.

Conscientiousness

People who are conscientious are organized and have a strong sense of duty. They're dependable, disciplined and achievement-focused. You won't find conscientious types jetting off on round-the-world journeys with only a backpack; they're planners.
People low in conscientiousness are more spontaneous and freewheeling. They may tend toward carelessness. Conscientiousness is a helpful trait to have, as it has been linked to achievement in school and on the job.

Extraversion

Extraversion versus introversion is possibly the most recognizable personality trait of the Big Five. The more of an extravert someone is, the more of a social butterfly they are. Extraverts are chatty, sociable and draw energy from crowds. They tend to be assertive and cheerful in their social interactions.
Introverts, on the other hand, need plenty of alone time, perhaps because their brains process social interaction differently. Introversion is often confused with shyness, but the two aren't the same. Shyness implies a fear of social interactions or an inability to function socially. Introverts can be perfectly charming at parties — they just prefer solo or small-group activities.

Agreeableness

Agreeableness measures the extent of a person's warmth and kindness. The more agreeable someone is, the more likely they are to be trusting, helpful and compassionate. Disagreeable people are cold and suspicious of others, and they're less likely to cooperate.
Men who are high in agreeableness are judged to be better dancers by women, suggesting that body movement can signal personality. (Conscientiousness also makes for good dancers, according to the same 2011 study.) But in the workplace, disagreeable men actually earn more than agreeable guys. Disagreeable women didn't show the same salary advantage, suggesting that a no-nonsense demeanor is uniquely beneficial to men.

Neuroticism

To understand neuroticism, look no further than George Costanza of the long-running sitcom "Seinfeld." George is famous for his neuroses, which the show blames on his dysfunctional parents. He worries about everything, obsesses over germs and disease and once quits a job because his anxiety over not having access to a private bathroom is too overwhelming.
George may be high on the neuroticism scale, but the personality trait is real. People high in neuroticism worry frequently and easily slip into anxiety and depression. If all is going well, neurotic people tend to find things to worry about. One 2012 study found that when neurotic people with good salaries earned raises, the extra income actually made them less happy.
In contrast, people who are low in neuroticism tend to be emotionally stable and even-keeled.
Unsurprisingly, neuroticism is linked with plenty of bad health outcomes. Neurotic people die younger than the emotionally stable, possibly because they turn to tobacco and alcohol to ease their nerves.
Possibly the creepiest fact about neuroticism, though, is that parasites can make you feel that way. And we're not talking about the natural anxiety that might come with knowing that a tapeworm has made a home in your gut. Undetected infection by the parasite Toxoplasma gondii may make people more prone to neuroticism, a 2006 study found.

Other personality measures

Though personality types have fallen out of favor in modern psychological research as too reductive, they're still used by career counselors and in the corporate world to help crystallize people's understanding of themselves. Perhaps the most famous of these is the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. A questionnaire based on the work of early psychologist Carl Jung sorts people into categories based on four areas: sensation, intuition, feeling and thinking, as well as extraversion/introversion.
Sensing and intuition refer to how people prefer to gather information about the world, whether through concrete information (sensing) or emotional feelings (intuition). Thinking and feeling refer to how people make decisions. Thinking types go with logic, while feeling types follow their hearts.
The Myers-Briggs system is rounded out with the judging/perception dichotomy, which describes how people choose to interact with the world. Judging types like decisive action, while perceiving types prefer open options.

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

5 Leadership Styles to Inspire Peak Performance


leadership-styles-management-styles-peak-performanceWhat qualities and management styles do great managers possess to inspire and motivate their employees to deliver at their peak performance? The job of the manager is to get things done by leading others to success. Use these 5 leadership styles to get the most out of your employees.
It is important to develop management styles that suit different situations. Each leader has their own leadership styles and it is your job to inspire your employees to deliver at their peak performance.  Your ability to organize the work and to supervise your staff effectively to get the job done on schedule and on budget is the key to getting the results for which you are responsible.

The Best Management Styles

According to numerous surveys of employees in the work world, the best bosses and supervisors possess three management styles:
1. Structure. Everyone knows exactly what needs to be done, why it is to be done, and to what standard.
2. Consideration. The boss makes employees feel that he or she really cares about them.
3. Freedom. Good bosses give their people freedom to perform. Once they have assigned a task, they try to stay out of the way, except to comment and to help when needed.

Discovering Your Leadership Styles

One of your jobs as the leader is to be a teacher. The reason you are in charge is because of your leadership styles and your superior level of knowledge and skill. If you would like to continue to develop your management styles and master your true talents download my free report “Discovering Your Talents.”  One of the most helpful things you do is to pass on your knowledge and skill to those who report to you. Teach other people how to do the job that you have already mastered. You multiply your output by teaching someone else how to do something that only you can do. And you increase their value to the business.

The 5 Keys to Inspire Peak Performance

1. Accept complete responsibility for your staff. You choose them, you assign them, and you manage them. You are responsible for your staff to operate at their peak performance.
2. Look upon your staff with the same patience and understanding as you would look upon younger members of your family.
3. Practice the Friendship Factor with them, which is composed of three components: time, care, and respect. Give staff time when they want to talk. Express care and concern for them and their problems. Treat them with respect, the same way you would treat a customer or friend.
4. Practice Servant Leadership, by seeing your job as a position of trust with your subordinates. Just as they are there to serve you and the company, you are there to serve them, as well.
5. Practice Golden Rule Management. Treat each person the way you would like to be treated if the situation were reversed. When you practice Golden Rule Management—you manage other people the way you would like to be managed—you will elicit peak performance from your employees more than in any other way.

Get What You Need Out of Your Employees

By using and developing these techniques and leadership styles you will notice a change in your employees work. By practicing these management styles you will bring your team to great success, increase productivity in the workplace and inspire peak performance in your employees.
I hope you enjoyed reading the article on leadership styles. If you liked what you read, please share and comment below.

12 Positive Steps to Take When Stressed and Depressed


Exercise
Exercise
Exercise is proven to produce an increase in chemicals such as endorphins, which can make us feel less depressed – and can help to lessen fatigue as well.  Exercises are available for individuals of all ability levels, and patients should discuss an appropriate exercise program with their doctor. 



Stress management program
Stress management program
Many strategies, such as meditation, yoga, guided-imagery, progressive relaxation, bio-feedback, and even regular napping, are available to manage stress, which in turn, can help to make you less susceptible to life’s ups and downs.  Which technique you choose doesn’t matter, it is only important that you stay committed and practice the exercises you find to be helpful.


Talk about it
Talk about it
Confiding in a trusted friend or family member about difficult feelings or thoughts can often improve your mood.





Commit to one activity each week
Commit to one activity each week
Being accountable to a group can be a motivator to change your environment and get social support – which can ultimately be uplifting.






Write in a journal
Write in a journal
Take time to write down your emotions, the act of which is a very safe outlet to release negative thoughts that may be building up inside.






Develop a spiritual interest
Develop a spiritual interest
Spending time in nature, prayer, meditation, or a religious setting, are all forms of spiritual practice.  How you define spirituality does not really matter; the important thing is that you feel connected with something greater than yourself.  When firmly grounded in a spiritual belief, one can come back to this centered place – especially during times of stress or sadness – and find great comfort.


Find your bliss
Find your bliss
What is the one thing in your life that makes you want to get up in the morning and keep going even when your body wants to rollover and go back to sleep?  What images can you think of that make you smile?  This can be a loved one, a job, a hobby, or even a higher purpose.  Your bliss can be a great motivator when you need an incentive to care for yourself.


Help others
Help others
Volunteering is a great way to improve self-esteem and combat feelings of worthlessness.  Frequently volunteers report feeling physically, emotionally, and intellectually recharged after doing something for others.





Reward yourself
Reward yourself
Do something that makes you feel good (and causes no harm).  Ideas include getting a massage, renting your favorite DVD, spending time at the park, enjoying a delicious meal, and reading a great book, just to name a few.





Adopt a pet
Adopt a pet
Although a pet can be hard work initially, owning a pet can help to take one’s attention away from his or her despair.  Pets provide unconditional love that is so desperately needed during depressive episodes.






Create a gratitude list
Create a gratitude list
By consciously taking the time to shift the focus from all that is going wrong, to all that is going right in your life, you can create moments of pleasure.








Maintain a sense of humor
Maintain a sense of humor
Laughing provides therapeutic value – even consciously smiling can help you to feel better.

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